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Published: 2008-03-21 14:38:16 +0000 UTC; Views: 1621; Favourites: 7; Downloads: 7
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Description Dear pear,

I’m writing to you out of nostalgia and my usual ‘adult’ mood. But I’m also writing to you because I’ve never felt so hurt as to come so close back to you before.
The closer I am to you, the more I envy you for not knowing a thing about hair conditioners, painful sex, breast rashes and menstruation.
But the closer I am to you, the more I love you. I know I’ll lose you soon. No, don’t ask me… what I will lose then I want you to keep. Always.


The heap of gravel stone beside the hedge of the Ayuntamiento has left a hundred furrows on your heels. They’ll never disappear, my lovely pear, because when you said you want to paint them, they fell in love with you.


When you pass by the music shop with the big tree in front, never forget to wink to the dungaree sunflower-seed-seller who always complimented your mother and gave you an additional packet of… no, not of seeds – of sunflowers.


My sweet pear, please don’t ever stop counting pavement tiles. Your little feet fit so perfectly on them without trampling the grass growing from the crevices. If you start counting from the stop sign in front of the post office, by the time you bend the ring finger of your left hand you know your little sandal will land on your lucky tile.

You enjoy the tale of Torbalan, who kidnapped naughty children, crammed them in a bag and threw them in the river Jantra. You sometimes hear his footsteps when, fascinated and terrified, you shiver in your bed. Your grandma told you that once his huge hunting boot fell down on that poor tile and tilted it.

Since then you always stand on the higher edge and jump three tiles away… it’s such a big tilt. No, it’s not stupid, little pear, everyone deserves a fairytale, treasure yours.


In my world, my little pear, I hide my scarred heels in leather shoes that make me moan at the end of the day.

In my world the music shop was burgled, the tree was cut down and the sunflower-seller died of cancer.

In my world I can count to 7 thousand without using my hands.

My Torbalan is the cross-eyed ever-drunk neighbour, who trudges like a ghost from the local bar to the church ruins.

In my world a 10° tilt can only make me notice it by tripping me.

I’m looking forward to seeing you again in the attic windows of my primary school and sharing your joyful nursery rhymes. Keep a dry slide for me.

You’ll have all chances to be sad when you become me.


Always yours,


Canker-worm
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Comments: 41

DogmaticKerr [2009-06-18 01:41:18 +0000 UTC]

This is so beautifully sad... who ever said that growing up meant losing everything you were? Loss and compromise is not always necessary...

The strange things people do as they grow older

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drop-asd In reply to DogmaticKerr [2009-06-28 20:29:23 +0000 UTC]

No, not everything but a lot of things. Some of my childhood memories seem so distant to me, as if someone else experienced them.

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DogmaticKerr In reply to drop-asd [2009-06-29 02:13:17 +0000 UTC]


I know that feeling very well... I've always been rather detached from, well, all of my childhood - I barely remember anything! My siblings and parents will sometimes start to laugh and joke and muse about the past... but I can't really join in because I don't remember most any of it. Not that I'd want to - I think that there are good reasons that those memories are gone or as repressed as they are. Very far away from me, too.

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DecemberRequiem [2008-05-11 20:09:13 +0000 UTC]

This is a stunning piece.
Unbelieviably moving, it almost brought tears to my eyes.
Wonderful.

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psihogirl [2008-03-23 13:01:05 +0000 UTC]

mdam nqkoi ne6ta sa mi dosta pozati
ama golqm zor be6e dokato go razbera
ama p1k si zaslujava6e

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drop-asd In reply to psihogirl [2008-03-23 17:36:01 +0000 UTC]

Haha, az ti kazah nqkoi raboti... s lubimata mi plo4ka primerrno
Nqma stra6no, skoro 6te se otraka6 i na angl, az v tebe vqrvam bezuslovno
Blagodarq ti

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psihogirl In reply to drop-asd [2008-03-23 19:34:59 +0000 UTC]

mhmmmm
xax mi to pokrai tebe .. normalno.. az bez re4nik tvoite ne6ta ne moga gi razbera
fakt

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drop-asd In reply to psihogirl [2008-04-22 10:16:58 +0000 UTC]

Izvinqvai

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psihogirl In reply to drop-asd [2008-04-25 16:21:36 +0000 UTC]

xixi nqma se pritesnqva6

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drop-asd In reply to psihogirl [2008-04-28 13:27:34 +0000 UTC]

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Lora-I [2008-03-23 12:33:40 +0000 UTC]

Прекрасно е. Напомня ми на 'Цветарка' от Смирненски, със същата психологическа нагласа, носталгия и личностно предзнаменование.
Едно от най-добрите ти, мило.

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drop-asd In reply to Lora-I [2008-03-23 17:27:25 +0000 UTC]

Ooo samo tova ne, nedei me sravnqva sys Smirnenski 4e 6te vzema taka da se vyzgordeq 4e nqma da me poznae6 Toi mi e lubimiqt bylgarski poet, vypreki 4e nai mnogo mi haresva "Zimni ve4eri", "Cvetarka" sy6to e neveroqtno proizvedenie, taka 4e nedei da sravnqva6 moite napyni s nego, za6toto 6te stana kato domat, kato eritrocit, kato 4ervenata 6ap4ica
Blagodarq ti slynce

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Lora-I In reply to drop-asd [2008-03-24 17:28:28 +0000 UTC]

Хи-хи... дори и да се възгордееш малко, няма страшно, напълно си го заслужаваш.
И на мен Смирненски много ми харесва... всъщност, всеки български поет е уникалнo даровит и затова всеки ми е любимец. Само Далчев ме дразни много... голяма скука е за мен.

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drop-asd In reply to Lora-I [2008-04-22 10:14:02 +0000 UTC]


Haha, vqrno e, mnogo dobri poeti si imame. No kakto kazva6, li4no na men Dal4ev sy6to ne mi e mnogo po vkusa.

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blacktutu [2008-03-23 05:17:24 +0000 UTC]

This is truly beautiful, there's always something magical about our childhood when we look back and compare our carefree days to the responsibility expected of an adult. And it's also sad, that we have to lose the sweet innocence and grace of a child and become aware of all that isn't like a fairytale.

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drop-asd In reply to blacktutu [2008-03-23 17:24:44 +0000 UTC]

Thank you dear, your words mean a lot for me, I've always somehow respected you intuitively. You indeed put into words all the complicated transformations and changes which happen with a growing child. I think all the happily-ever-afters were made only for children :[

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silent-and-invalid [2008-03-23 00:42:04 +0000 UTC]

I can totally understand where this is coming from. In the next year there are some big steps coming in my life, that make me apprehensive about growing up...

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drop-asd In reply to silent-and-invalid [2008-03-23 17:12:16 +0000 UTC]

I think you're going through the same process as me, which makes me feel you so close. With me it was generally the emotional state, change of attitudes and my own money that made me realize I'm not the same child anymore

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silent-and-invalid In reply to drop-asd [2008-03-23 18:25:01 +0000 UTC]

Ya, I'm really nervous about not being able to know that there'll be a soft spot to land on when I make a complete fool of my self, not knowing exactly what's going to happen. I hate that I won't always have a lot of control over these knew situations... I'm really bad for that sort of thing...

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RedEarthofTerra [2008-03-22 19:52:33 +0000 UTC]

I love Peter Pan Complex poems.
This is no exception.

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drop-asd In reply to RedEarthofTerra [2008-03-23 17:09:11 +0000 UTC]

Thank you Mmm, Peter Pan is the best description of a child - irrational, hedonistic and adventurous

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RedEarthofTerra In reply to drop-asd [2008-03-24 01:31:05 +0000 UTC]

lol yep.
No prob.

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lorananirren [2008-03-22 05:07:31 +0000 UTC]

My god this was hard to read. There are tears in my eyes, because this is so me. For so many years...I truly have no words, it's beautiful pain.

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drop-asd In reply to lorananirren [2008-03-22 13:28:46 +0000 UTC]

I'm sorry it caused you pain dear. And again you amaze me, all the stories in this letter are completely real. They cut the tree just three days ago and that tile is still not replaced. We might turn out more similar than we thought.
Thank you

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lorananirren In reply to drop-asd [2008-03-22 20:23:05 +0000 UTC]

Indeed we may, indeed we may. It only caused me pain because it reminded me of how I've felt while growing into the woman I am, and how I still feel sometimes, thinking back on the joys and trials of childhood, and how different these lives seem to be. It wasn't the words themselves, but the emotion that you described with them...captured even...it just hit me as something I've known for a long time. Despite the painfulness of it, it is a beautiful work, and I love it very much. Your words never fail to touch me in some way

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drop-asd In reply to lorananirren [2008-03-23 17:07:46 +0000 UTC]

I guess growing up is difficult for everybody... but in a different way. Obviously we both had the luck to have nice childhoods. Unlike you I'm still growing up, and the difference is very big, between child's and adult attitude.
Haha, not the words themselves, of course not, I meant exactly the emotion, because the words actually bear the emotion, right? I don't know, I just felt very sad about the cut tree. It's odd how certain things, which seem quite insignificant, remain emblazoned in your memory for a long time.
Anyway,... it makes me feel less lonely knowing that the expression of my own feelings touched someone else

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lorananirren In reply to drop-asd [2008-03-24 20:29:21 +0000 UTC]

Ah, dear one. We're all still growing up, believe me. I wouldn't still be so hurt over occurrences in my life if I weren't learning things by them...I'd be much more jaded than I am if I weren't still growing up Not always the best thing, of course, but it's a truth I've come to accept...and despite the pain I do hope I never stop growing.

I know how you feel about the cut tree, especially one from your childhood. I lost a whole section of forest that was 'mine' when I was younger. I can still see it in my mind. I still enjoy the people who live in the houses built there now, but I'd like my old forest back. I used to write a lot more about that when I was younger...I bet I could find and post some of those if I chose. They're not very good, but they're part of me, as was and is that place

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drop-asd In reply to lorananirren [2008-04-22 10:20:24 +0000 UTC]

So growing up, does it mean healing more quickly?

Nature is one essential part of memories, I've noticed. And also it grows into the soul very easily. It's always painful to lose these memories. As a friend said, it's like uprooting them steals bits from your heart. :[

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lorananirren In reply to drop-asd [2008-04-22 15:46:59 +0000 UTC]

I don't think growing up means healing more quickly...quite the contrary actually. But I think it means a deeper understanding of hurt and healing. Yeah, that's a good explanation I think.

It's very true, very true indeed. Anything that holds significance holds a piece of our hearts. Places, people, objects, anything that holds value to us. Each loss of something meaningful leaves a hole in the heart, and the size is proportional to the amount of value held. Truthfully, I don't think those holes are ever fully healed, but I think the heart is always growing to accommodate new placeholders. Unless, of course, someone has given up on loving. That's when growing stops and dying truly begins.

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drop-asd In reply to lorananirren [2008-04-23 11:08:00 +0000 UTC]

Well, but this deeper understanding... doesn't it help?

I couldn't possibly say it more beautifully. Wow, just wow

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lorananirren In reply to drop-asd [2008-04-27 02:20:39 +0000 UTC]

I think, rather than helping heal more quickly, it helps prevent future hurts. You know, the scarring makes you tougher so each time something happens it's less painful, or at least less unexpected. It's like a lovely song by KT Tunstall says, "The harder it hits me the less I seem to bruise."

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drop-asd In reply to lorananirren [2008-04-27 14:55:53 +0000 UTC]

Wow, this is a beautiful notion, very striking

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lorananirren In reply to drop-asd [2008-04-27 18:47:12 +0000 UTC]

*nod* It seems to make sense. Scar tissue builds with each time we're hurt, and each time hurts bad, but it still seems lessened, somehow. I'm only speculating, of course, it's a difficult thing to put words to.

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drop-asd In reply to lorananirren [2008-04-28 11:54:21 +0000 UTC]

It is true in a lot of ways. I'm just not sure if this numbness is a good thing.

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lorananirren In reply to drop-asd [2008-04-28 12:34:49 +0000 UTC]

Numb in what way, if I might ask? As far as I can see, you're still a kindhearted, caring, loving person taking care of her own. Then again I only see pieces of you within your writing, our discussions here, and your journals. I couldn't claim to know you deeply, though I'd say in some aspects I know you well.

As a side note, numbness usually tends to denote healing in progress, it's just protecting the body from pain. As long as it doesn't last too long, as long as it doesn't become permanent, I don't think there's anything to worry about.

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drop-asd In reply to lorananirren [2008-04-28 13:22:50 +0000 UTC]

I'm not sure. After the crisis from a few weeks ago I feel rather detached from everything around me, and I've seen a few other people get that way after a lot of suffering. It's scary, but thank you for reassuring me, I hope it's not something permanent. And as for me being kindhearted and caring, I guess that's a part of my character that bad moods cannot change Now that sounded conceited but you said it first

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lorananirren In reply to drop-asd [2008-04-28 17:56:31 +0000 UTC]

ahahahahahhaha xD You're adorable, you know that?

On a more serious note, numbness does tend to happen after much suffering. If you want to go all psychological, there are the five steps (I think it's five...) of grieving, and I think recovering from any sort of personal crisis is a process of grief. Possibly this numbness is a part of the denial stage, not allowing yourself to accept that what has happened truly happened, that it cannot hurt you, that you won't let it in...or maybe I'm just blowing hot air. I truly can't say, as I know nothing about your situation, but I do hope things get...hmmm, not easier, they never seem to get easier >.<, better maybe, or at least more open for you, if that makes sense. *huggles*

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drop-asd In reply to lorananirren [2008-04-29 11:32:29 +0000 UTC]

I still don't know what to say when people tell me that

Probably you're right, you seem to have some point although the whole situation is still just too blurry for me. Probably denial, yes, because i feel it as a dream, or a nightmare to be exact but I find it difficult to think about other things. I don't know, things always get better, don't they?

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lorananirren In reply to drop-asd [2008-05-13 00:54:29 +0000 UTC]

You say thank you, and nothing more lol. Otherwise they'll argue you down...believe me, I know >.< I've given up trying to tell people they're wrong when they compliment me, because I don't believe it anymore, but it does still make me a little uncomfortable. The best thing to do is just thank them and that's it ^_^

Things keep on, at the very least, and they do get better eventually. I hope you're well hun, and getting better more and more each day. You deserve it

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saturninesweetness [2008-03-21 14:42:07 +0000 UTC]

Ohh, I love it!


Delicious.





-Fobo

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drop-asd In reply to saturninesweetness [2008-03-21 14:53:04 +0000 UTC]

Thank you dear It's right from my heart so I appreciate your words greatly

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