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Working through some things.
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"People with [Borderline Personality Disorder] can be very sensitive to the way others treat them [...]. Their feelings about others often shift from positive to negative after a disappointment, a perceived threat of losing someone, or a perceived loss of esteem in the eyes of someone they value. This phenomenon, sometimes called splitting or black-and-white thinking, includes a shift from idealizing others (feeling admiration and love) to devaluing them (feeling anger or dislike). Combined with mood disturbances, idealization and devaluation can undermine relationships with family, friends, and co-workers.
While strongly desiring intimacy, people with BPD tend toward insecure, avoidant or ambivalent, or fearfully preoccupied attachment patterns in relationships."
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This is a real neat illustration! I suffer from borderline personality disorder too.
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I'm happy to see that although you have had an bad experience with someone who has BPD, you are not bashing in any way.
I love this illustration, I have BPD and I often see hate speech about people with BPD on the internet. There are abusive people with BPD, there are abusive neurotypical people. I am glad to to see that you remain open minded and understanding. It's refreshing, as is your work!
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Thanks for the kind words, and I'm glad you appreciate the work. When I made this I remember finding solace in just reading the BPD wiki and learning about it. I felt hurt and upset but knew that bashing someone or the condition most likely fuelling the hurtful behaviour would only make me feel worse. Neurotypical or not, I think most of us are probably just trying to do our best. Sometimes we fuck up. All I can do about that when it affects me is try to gain some perspective and let it go.
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Very wise of you to say, and you are right!
I hope you are feeling well now!
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Glad to hear it's doing something for you -- that's really the main reason I share my work. Take care!
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Hmhm... I'm curious: how does this image come across to you, as an expert-by-experience? How do you interpret it?
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Well, lifeless, broken yet beautiful.
Kind of show how a borderline felt.
What I dont understand is that it didnt represent the sudden switch of our personality kind.
What it did show is that how useless we felt, especially exposed to a small criticism , it can stuck in our minds and haunt us. I cant socialize normally after a harmless criticism tbh, it may recover or stuck in my mind for life.
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I see, thanks for sharing that. It seems like a really complex kind of vulnerability.
The sudden switch was displayed in the fact the power chord is unplugged. Although the image doesn't show it, you can imagine how the bouquet would look with all the light bulbs on, but it may be unplugged suddenly. I wanted to show that on/off switch by that metaphor.
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This is one of your best pieces. Absolutely incredible message, but honestly, it is a beautiful image to sum up feelings for many people who have felt a disconnect to intimacy. Excellent work, and thank you for being so open about it and sharing it with the internets!
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Whoa thanks a lot 
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Sure~ glad you found something in it.
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Interesting concept, and beautiful illustration.
I'm having a bit of a hard time making the connection here though: is this trying to convey how the person's feelings are delicate like flowers and can be "on and off" like a lamp?
Well, I may be dumb but I can still enjoy good art~.
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Didn't even think of the delicate part yet, but yea I guess that's applicable also. To me the bouquet represents their attention/affection, which is beautiful and bright but can apparently also be turned off just like that. Neurotypical flowers might wither, but they do so gradually and at least they are real. For me, this sort of experience with someone with BPD left me questioning the latter and will probably haunt me for the foreseeable time to come. In hindsight, I feel it might've been a missed opportunity to label the wall sockets with girls' names; applicable but might have ruined it with passive aggression -- too much of a good thing~ hah.
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Ooh, so that's what the sockets meant... I thought there were two of them simply because that's the norm where you live or something, ahah~.
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They also usually come in two, yes ^^
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As always, I simply love how you handle neon colours.
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I had an emotionally abusive brush with a borderliner and this is how it felt.
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I see. Your last 2 entries haven't been very cheery, which is unusual for you. Good luck.
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