Sleeper-Desolate In reply to linked [2004-11-21 17:03:39 +0000 UTC]

...okay?


This is definately not the ideal frame of mind, but it's what most women feel. And, really, it's not OUR fault that we feel this way. Enter: nearly every male, wanting only the type of girls that are models and movie stars, and the media who pulverize us with pictures of unhealthily thin women. This song is about the way we ARE, the way EVERY WOMAN feels at some point. It's a hideous double standard; it's so easy for men to say that women should just buck up and not be concerned with never having a boyfriend or being called 'fat' or 'ugly' or never being looked at in a romantic way, because it's so much easier for most guys. If a man is single, he's alright with that, and most likely there's a girl after him anyway. Society's underlying message to women is that if you don't look like Model A or Skinny Girl B then you are hopeless and ugly, and you need to be better.

This song is NOT about losing one's virginity, it is not about being desperate for sex, or anything like that. It is the story of a girl crying out for SOMEONE to notice her and say that she is beautiful, for a guy to care about HER and prove all of this bullshit media and society wrong. I do feel this way, and it's not fair for you to judge something that you cannot even begin to understand.

It's all to easy to say things from your perspective, but try dealing with this every day, living as an insecure (or even a secure) woman. You'll see a world of difference, and you'll definately see how easy and inevitable it is to fall into this pit of "you're ugly."

This is life. I've been trying to change it, but everyone gets to the point where they need a little help from someone else; no one can go it alone.

I'm sorry it's this way, and I wish it were different... but I only see things getting worse.

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linked In reply to Sleeper-Desolate [2004-11-21 23:08:24 +0000 UTC]

In a society 30lbs on the average fatter than 20 years ago, women are in fact getting fatter so society isn't wrong about that. I'm not defending the notion that you should make fun of people because they are fat.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that what you've fallen into is the notion that men telling you you aren't fat and being by your side will make you happy and make everything ok. Well sorry miss, it won't, in fact it only complicates things and adds hurt because men hardly ever are good enough to stay by women's sides just like women are hardly ever good enough to stay by men's sides. This society is full of fickle, immature, and horrible people who are shallow. Men telling you what you want to hear will only make you suspicious because no one else has ever done that before, right? Why? you have LOW self-esteem, you can't be in a good relationship with LOW self-esteem, it's a turn off and eventually you will destroy the relationship because of it. Learn to be happy with yourself, if you cant be happy with yourself the way you are change yourself to make yourself attractive to YOURSELF, ****NOT**** ANYONE ELSE. Be secure in your sexuality, be secure in being alone and enjoy life alone, it's the ONLY way to enjoy life as a couple and be secure as a married couple.

1. you need to love yourself
2. you need to tell yourself you aren't fat and that you are very attractive
3. you need to tell yourself if certain men don't jump at the chance of talking to you they aren't worth your time
4. society is full of hypocrites and they just toss insults as if they were water just to be as hurtfull as possible, sadly
5. being over weight is changeable easilly through high amounts of excercise and eating well IF it will make you feel any better about yourself and only if that (protein and fruits and vegies, low carbs and low sugar, only helps if you keep it up, it's a life style change, not a diet)
6. Most people are not special and are not worth your time and energy crying over.

~Adam

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Sleeper-Desolate In reply to linked [2004-11-22 00:21:08 +0000 UTC]

Um... fuck.





I'm really sorry... I accidentally typed that thing in the wrong box...



Shit. I'm so sorry. Completely disregard the above comment.

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Sleeper-Desolate In reply to linked [2004-11-22 00:18:38 +0000 UTC]

Goodnight.

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Sleeper-Desolate In reply to Leherae [2004-11-21 16:54:11 +0000 UTC]

Yeah. Thanks Katie!!!

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Sleeper-Desolate In reply to solelytenet [2004-11-20 07:54:59 +0000 UTC]

Thank you so much. I'm so glad you feel that way.

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