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Published: 2011-01-17 08:39:08 +0000 UTC; Views: 1698; Favourites: 17; Downloads: 12
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Taken December 2010, before Christmas.Related content
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May I ask how long after the operation this picture was taken?
If I may say so, real good work of the surgeon and an impressive and emotional photo!
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Everyone. But mostly my ex, I guess.
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Your ex: male or female?
(if you think it's insensetive of me to ask, plz say so)
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He didn't like that you were getting a sex change?
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Uh, excuse me?
There is a LOT wrong with that question.
1.) It's not called a "sex change". That is a derogatory and offensive term used by people on TV who don't know any better. The correct term is "gender reassignment", or "transition".
2.) There's way more to it than just an "operation". WAY more. The reason it's called "transition", is because you don't only change your body, you change your whole life. Every aspect of your life is changed. And it's not just surgery. You need to go through months, even years of therapy, and then need the therapists' approval in order to even begin to medically transition. You need that in order to get hormones, and you need even more of that in order to get surgery. It's not something you can just go get.
There's also way more to it. I just can't stress that enough. It's not just surgery.
3.)I've been transitioned (COMPLETED transition) for a LONG TIME. This is not something that I'm still "undergoing".
Is that not obvious by the fact that I have a goatee and a flat chest?
4.) Just because I was dating a guy, doesn't mean that he thought of me as a girl. I'm living as a guy, and have been for 4 years. I'm a GUY.
5.) It sounds to me like you don't even think of me as a guy.. but rather, a girl who had an "operation" to "BE a guy". That's also ignorant. I'm a guy. This is a birth defect, not a decision I made. I didn't just wake up one day and decide I wanted to "be" a guy. I've always been a guy.. because my brain has always been male. Even if my body developed female. That happened in the womb.
6.) Why would you automatically assume it has anything to do with that? Or even that my gender is an issue when it comes to dating? That's ignorant and rude.
7.) There are a million other reasons for someone to break up with a person(besides their gender identity/physical sex).
But to answer your question, no, it had absolutely nothing to do with my transition, seeing as I've already completed my transition.. and even if I hadn't, it wouldn't have been an issue. Believe it or not, there are actually people out there who can accept pre-op transsexuals for who they are.. because they can see them as the gender they *are*, and not just what's between their legs. If you can't see why, you need to open your mind.
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For get about that jerk/./// Your very handsome.... =w= and love the hair~!
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First, let me thank you from the bottom of my heart for setting me straight on so many matters. Ignorance is my personal enemy, and thanks to you I can now defeat it a little bit more. My deepest gratitudes to you.
Second, I apologize. I can see (VERY clearly) that I have deeply offended you on multiple levels. THIS WAS NOT MY INTENTION!!! Like you said, there was so much to this that I simply didn't know, but thanks to you, I do. For my offences, I wholeheartedly accept this virulent chastisement as both deserving and (from my perspective) somewhat late in comming.
To address the issues you brought up, it's difficult for me to think of anyone on DA as male or female; I have, on more than one occasion, accidentally believed that one of my friends was one gender when they were in point of fact the opposite. Honostly, I DID think of you as "a girl who had an 'operation' to be a guy", but I can see now that is both incorrect and undeserved.
I can't make adequate ammends through a text message, I'm smart enough to realize this. I hope, however, that you believe me when I say that I sit, schooled, corrected, and more than a little ashamed at myself.
I must, however, correct you on one point: that my mind is not open. I strive every day to maintain an open mind, as well as to see when my mind has previously been closed (such as now). I DO accept people for who they are (inside and out, even if those two fields don't match), not for who society or any other organization/individual thinks they should be.
And (off topic, I know), if it's any consolation, my girlfriend revealed to me that she's considering a transition when she's older and has the resources. I believe she told me this to see whether I would leave her on the grounds of moral righteousness. I told her I would still love her and still want to be with her, something to which I hold to today.
Once again, I'm sorry for being a jackass (that's the official term for what I made myself tonight), and I thank you for your stunning enlightenment. Good night and God bless.
To your
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whats it like....being on T and also well having the whole surgery done? I mean I'm not on T or have I done any surgery as of yet. but I do have mutton chops and chin hair, not to mention a happy trail and what not..granted I also have PCOS ... I've often wondered about this though as I'm an FtM also. how was it or how is it taking T? and then going under the knife..I'm terrified of going under and then not waking up x-x
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Well, I don't really know what to answer about the being on T part, as that's a very broad question.. but if you ask me specific things about it, I'll be able to tell you.
You're lucky you already have some facial hair. Sometimes hormonal imbalances work in our favor. lol
As for surgery, you know what? I was actually scared about the same thing.. not waking up from surgery.. or even worse, waking up during surgery.. but it's actually rare for either of those things to happen..
I was so terrified before my chest surgery, I was shaking as I approached the operating table. They had me walk into the operating room and climb onto the table myself..
They knew I was nervous, and they did everything they could to make me feel comfortable. They gave me some medicine to feel more calm.. a nurse held my hand..
They were all saying I was going to be okay, and they reminded me that there was a team of them.. around 10 people.. and they'd all be taking good care of me.
It's a really scary thought, going under.. leaving yourself completely in the hands of other people.. you know you'll have no control.. so you feel scared that something bad will happen..
But you have to trust that they will take good care of you.. because they will. There are the people performing the surgery, and then there are people sitting right beside you, making sure you're breathing properly and everything else.. and if something goes wrong during the surgery, they fix it. And if you're young and healthy enough, you'll pull through it.. and things going wrong during surgery are actually very rare, and mostly happen to old people.. so you really have nothing to worry about - just like I had nothing to worry about.
I don't even remember going to sleep.. I just remember waking up..
And it felt like no time had passed at all.. I actually thought the surgery was just starting, and that I hadn't fallen asleep yet.. but then I realized my boobs were gone.. LOL
After that experience, I wasn't so scared when I went in for my hysterectomy. I felt a lot more confident in the nurses and doctors in the O.R.
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wow..thats heavy...I hope one day I'l be as brave I mean I need to look for a surgeon first and make money. heh. but I guess I'll have to cross that road when I get there.
and I love the fact I have to wake up and actually shave XD its just..I dunno..it just...'fits' thanks for taking the time to talk to me I really appreciate it.
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Thank you
I like this one best, out of the two.
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same, i think its the way you are turned
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or it may just be your expression
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Could be that too, yeah.. I don't like my expression in the first one as much.
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